Most of the time it doesn't matter what your intentions were.
It matters what the outcome of your actions are.
So, when you really love someone, you should choose your actions based on the effects (or possible effects) of the outcomes to that person, rather than staying within the isolation of your intentions. Intentions can be a selfish and unreliable place for you to remain. They don't go beyond yourself, and they reach as far as you may hope.
"But I didn't mean for that to happen, I only meant for this..."
Does your intention change the outcome and the effect it has on your beloved? It's not fair to ask someone to take the outcome and exchange it for the intention. It's simply not possible. Actions and their consequences can be felt, but not intentions. They can only be perceived. And regret doesn't act as a life preserver. Once you have sunk someone, you have sunk them. Regret can't make then float again, or take away their hurt.
Asking to be understood, to be forgiven, are selfish and thoughtless moves. Don't require these in the first place.
The best way is to intend to choose or predict only the right outcomes thoughtfully and carefully. Intend on actions being real, not thoughts. Intend on actions having real consequences.
As for those you don't love, it's a totally different story, intend away, it doesn't matter much.
It matters what the outcome of your actions are.
So, when you really love someone, you should choose your actions based on the effects (or possible effects) of the outcomes to that person, rather than staying within the isolation of your intentions. Intentions can be a selfish and unreliable place for you to remain. They don't go beyond yourself, and they reach as far as you may hope.
"But I didn't mean for that to happen, I only meant for this..."
Does your intention change the outcome and the effect it has on your beloved? It's not fair to ask someone to take the outcome and exchange it for the intention. It's simply not possible. Actions and their consequences can be felt, but not intentions. They can only be perceived. And regret doesn't act as a life preserver. Once you have sunk someone, you have sunk them. Regret can't make then float again, or take away their hurt.
Asking to be understood, to be forgiven, are selfish and thoughtless moves. Don't require these in the first place.
The best way is to intend to choose or predict only the right outcomes thoughtfully and carefully. Intend on actions being real, not thoughts. Intend on actions having real consequences.
As for those you don't love, it's a totally different story, intend away, it doesn't matter much.
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